Bedtime. Does the very word
strike fear into your heart? Don’t worry; you aren’t alone. Many
parents dread the nightly bedtime ritual. This is especially true for parents
of preschoolers who are worried about leaving their children alone in the night
but getting a little bit desperate for some rest of their own. Establishing
healthy bedtime routines can help make that part of the night go more smoothly.
In fact, healthy bedtime routines can even make getting ready for bed a fun
family activity. Believe it or not, bedtime doesn’t have to be bad time.

The first thing
that you should know about establishing bedtime routines for your family
is that there is no “right” way to do this. What you need to
do is figure out what is going to work best for your family, given your
particular schedule and needs and then to work out a routine that makes
sense around that. Since all families eat dinner at different times, have
different homework and activities needs for older children and go to bed
at different times, the specifics of what your family will do for their
bedtime routines will depend on those factors.


 

The phrase
to keep in mind when establishing your bedtime routines is “wind
down”. The idea is that you are going to spend the several hours
before bedtime winding down with your children, creating a relaxed atmosphere
that is inviting to sleep. Additionally, you will be creating habits that
are done in the same order every night (or at least regularly) so that
your child will get adjusted to doing certain activities and following
them with sleep. This combination of winding down and creating a predictable
pattern that ends in sleep leads to healthy bedtime routines that make
the night easy for everyone.

In general,
bedtime routines begin with the time period just after dinner. It is at
this point in the night that you will want to start thinking about winding
down. Some families have a short period of high-energy activity after
dinner (outside play, for example) whereas others go straight into wind
down time. Whether or not you engage in that high-energy activity to get
your kids energy out, this period is followed by quiet activities such
as watching TV or videos, coloring, or reading together.

This is also
the time during which you will do your nightly family activities that
all lead up to bedtime. Chores may happen at this time. Bath time, brushing
teeth and getting into pajamas will all follow. Families with young children
usually then have a routine which involves spending time in the child’s
room. Taking the child to bed and reading a story there, sharing thoughts
about the day or otherwise quietly engaging in activity in the room together
will be the final thing that your family does together as part of the
nightly routine.

Some parents
remain in the room with their children until they fall asleep. Others have
lights out at a certain time and then the parents proceed to their own nighttime
activities. What works for your family may depend on the age and needs of
your child, your parenting techniques and your own nighttime activities.
Just remember that you’re establishing a routine that will let your
children wind down and know that bedtime is approaching. This should prevent
a lot of the problems which make bedtime “bad time” for some
families.

 

 

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One Response to Establishing Healthy Bedtime Routines

  1. Rachel says:

    I actually enjoy our bedtime routine. After the baby goes to bed my preschool-aged boys get their pajamas on. After teeth are brushed we sit on their beds and read a couple of stories. Since they usually still have some energy to burn we let them play their Leapsters for about 15 minutes and then they go to sleep on their own. Sometimes we sit and talk with them while they play. This is often my favorite time of the day because they tell me their silliest stories. This routine has worked very well for us, and because we do it every night they don’t even question it.

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